Wanda Sykes Wouldn’t Fool Anyone With Black Babies

image Wanda is everywhere you turn these days.  Whether she’s doing specials on HBO or chatting with Oprah, she has something to say about everything.  In an effort to create a buzz about her new late night show, she is doing the rounds.  I certainly wish her luck.  It has been a very long time since Black people had a voice outside of the dog pound (yep, Aresenio reference)

When Sykes came out as a lesbian in an effort to fight Prop 8, her commentary was very telling about the ways in which sexuality is assumed.  “I never had to tell my parents I was Black, but I had to tell them that I am a lesbian.”  Since that time, she has gone on to declare her sexuality as her largest marginaliszation.  As a matter of course, I tend to avoid critiquing someone’s lived experience but this…this is just pure ish.  Thanks Wanda for supporting a hierarchy of oppressions.  Are you going to get a gay is the new Black tattoo as well?  Will it help you to fight the last great civil rights battle on the planet?

So, I have some issues with Wanda…then it happens.  The publicity release that this outspoken, intelligent Black woman is now a mother of two.   So, I take a moment to celebrate and be happy.  As a mother I know what a blessing a child is.  This little person enters your life and is completely dependent on you for survival and as a reward for your loving attention,  they change your life and even your view on the world.  Is there anything more soothing than holding a sleeping child?

Since Wanda’s life partner is a woman they used a sperm donor.  Today the twins are six months old, without a drop of African American blood flowing through their veins.  When asked if she was concerned that the children would not look like her, Wanda’s response was “we’re lesbians we’re not fooling anybody”.  Even if they had used the sperm from a Black man, if he did not have a genetic link to her, there was never any possibility that they would look like her.

Somehow, I cannot take comfort in that as the reason why it should not matter that a Black celebrity willingly chose to avoid parenting a Black child.  It seems that unless Black children can be used as accessories to let the world know about your commitment to fauxgressive policies, they have no value.  Black children languish in the system but this did not stop DeMarcus Ware and his wife Taniqua from adopting a White girl.   What better way is there to announce to the world that you have moved on up than raising a Black child. 

imageThen of course you have Michael Jackson and his three White children.  He may have claimed to be a proud African American man but everything he did proved the opposite.  

We could wrap ourselves in some happy happy joy joy, with the belief that a child is a child but let’s just deal in a bit of reality for a moment;  children are not more equal than any other group of people on the planet.  When famous Black people are either having White babies or adopting them, it speaks to an internalization of racism.  Yes I said it.   How much more of our energies are we going to direct to supporting and glorifying Whiteness, while ignoring the plight of our people?

Sykes, Jackson and DeMarcus made a conscious choice not to love a Black child and in the process turned their backs on the child within themselves. We don’t live in a rainbow coloured world, where race has ceased to matter.  The decisions we make speak loudly about our comfort level and acceptance of ourselves. As a visible Black celebrity you are held to a higher standard. If you profess to love our people, then your actions need to back up your words.

From a very early age Black children learn that they are not as special as little White children, no matter the energies their parents devote to building a positive self esteem.  The same people that pinched my boys cheek when he was an infant, now follow him around their store waiting for him to steal and he is only eight years old.

A pregnant Black woman learns as her belly reveals her condition that rather than marvelling at the display of life, many are worried that she is brining another hip hop dancing, rap video making, thug into this world.  That is exactly what Black children are to Whiteness, potential rapists, drug dealers, thieves, entertainers, or sports stars.  The world does not look at Black children as though they possess the possibility of changing the world. 

Investing in Black children is investing in the future of Black people.  When you move in celebrity circles it may seem as though your class position has transcended race, but as Toni Morrison said in her famous 60 minutes interview, “if you have White friends you should be aware of their limitations”.  Never be surprised if in the case of emergency, it is you that is thrown under the bus.

Thanks Sykes, Jackson and DeMarcus for wearing the sell out hat.  When little Black children wonder why it is that they continue to struggle so hard, they need look no further than your decision to avoid supporting them, to know why Whiteness continues to send them on the path to destruction.  If we don’t care about our babies, how the hell can we expect anyone else to?

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10 comments on “Wanda Sykes Wouldn’t Fool Anyone With Black Babies
  1. Rita says:

    I really think that this woman should stop hating and the people that think like her also. God only made one race and it’s called the human race. I think it’s great, a child gets to grow up with a family that loves them regardless of the color of their skin and at the same time learn about different culture’s.
    This reads like nothing but what it is..a story of hate!

  2. Heather says:

    I am appalled by this article. The author literally took 3 examples and made a case out of black people adopting or having white children. As a college educated African-American woman and who was once a nanny to an Indian couple and who also worked as a care helper in a multicultural church, this author is instilling continued hatred for culturally diverse families. Babied are babies. They deserve love and a healthy childhood no matter what color their parents are! I think more families should be so intermixed because it’s harder to hate based on color when your own family is a myriad of ethnicities plus you learn about different cultures, histories and these children grow up more accepting, tolerant and loving. This author should be ashamed. If I ever have the means I will adopt a European child, an African child, an Asian child and a Hispanic child and love them all equally and teach them all to love no matter skin color
    Shame on you author! Shame!

  3. Reezah Naroth says:

    This is the worst article I’ve ever read. Some people are so obsessively dominated by race that they are unable to appreciate the love of life and happiness of a family. We should be happy that a couple was able to bring a life into this world and be cared for and cherished and loved. There are millions of children around the world who can’t begin to fathom what that feels like. That’s what we should be concerned about. Not the concentration of melanin they have in the cells of their skin.

  4. Tee says:

    I disagree with the writer.In Wanda Sykes case they were not adopting the wife carried those babies .As long as the babies are healthy so what.As long as I do not have to change diapers I really don’t care.I care more about why it is so hard to adopt in the USA when there is a great deal of people who want to adopt regardless of race.

  5. Anonymous says:

    After reading this article I’ve learned one thing, some black people play the victim faster than the speed of light. This entire article is all saying “See us black folks are still down, we’re so far down that even black people won’t take in black kids. Poor little black kids, no one wants them. White babies are so much better”. May I just say BULLSHIT! Just because you couldn’t find anyone who took in black babies for your article, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Starting with white people who adopted black kids: Angelina Jolie/Brad Pitt, Madonna, Hugh Jackman, Steven Spielberg, Sandra Bullock and Tom Cruise just to name a few. So take your article and shove it!

    • Karen says:

      You took the words right out of my mouth. It’s sad that narrow minded jackasses still exist and actually wrote for the papers and magazines. As long as they continue pouring out their poisonous attitude and words there will continue to be racism!!!!!

  6. Abby says:

    I also found it interesting that WS had a child, where she could choose the race and chose to have a white baby. It is strange. We can’t know her motivations (it could be racially motivated or it could be to distance her herself from the children herself). Either way, she’s sending a strange message. For being so liberal, it’s surprising that she wouldn’t want a child who is Black. As far as MJ goes, it’s not surprising because he was always on a quest to lighten his skin and appear White. It’s sad that someone who arguably has so much, as far as money and fame goes, but still wants to change his skin color. It says a lot about the culture we live in.

  7. Join Beth says:

    You are a bigger racist than what you accuse white pepole of being…the tone of this article speaks volumes about your character as a black female and how you obviously hate whites. You are perpetuating racism with your hate speech….people have the right to adopt whatever race they want as long as they give the children a good loving home, that is what is important. Get over yourself.

    • EJ says:

      Join Beth, you are so right!! I am a black woman (not from the States, family is from South America) living in the Netherlands and my foster son is Turkish and he loves me like I’m his birth mom. And I love him like he was my own. It’s about love and not colour. The person who wrote this article is very bitter and yeah dear I say it….racist