Father Beats Daughters With Electrical Cord for Twerking and Many Call it Discipline

Massive Trigger Warning for discussion of child abuse.

A video released by World Hip Hop Stars (which seems to exist to show abuse against Black women and the worst elements of our community for the purposes of entertainment), shows a father beating his two daughters with an electrical cord after finding them twerking. He could have sat his daughters down and talked to them about their behaviour. He could have grounded them, made them do volunteer work, removed their access to the internet, taken away access to electronics, and most importantly, he could have talked to them, but the following is what he decided to do instead.

Warning the video is violent.



Of course, whenever something like this happens, you get the usual round of people defending the action, claiming that this is what discipline looks like.  Some suggested that this is a great move to fight promiscuity and teenage pregnancy. Heaven forbid we empower young girls and talk to them about safe sex and birth control.  Some suggested that even  though the girls were screaming “please stop” and that they were sorry, that the beating wasn’t really that bad and that they were making it seem worse than it was. Keep in mind that their father beat them with an extension cord, while he called them “motherfuckers.”  Others justified it by claiming that this could have been the last straw and that the girls could have done things off camera that the father was upset with, as though anything they could have done would have justified being beaten like this.

If the issue is that the father found twerking immoral and inappropriate, what he should have done is sat down with his daughters and explained this in depth, along with what he fears will result from this behaviour.  The only thing that these girls learned from this punishment abuse, is that their father is a violent man and to fear him, rather than to trust him to guide him through their childhood.  So many people believe that fear is what makes children obey and avoid trouble but that is far from the truth.  Children who are interacted with, treated with dignity, spoken to at length, will put far more stock into what their parents wishes for them are, than those who are beaten.  How can he claim to love his children and then do this to them?

The truth of the matter is that we live in a sex saturated society and young girls learn from an early age that what matters is the degree to which they can be perceived as sexually viable and attractive, rather than intelligent, outgoing and driven.  You can’t wait until they’re preeteens or teens to begin talking about the sexualization of women and why it is important for women, in particular women of colour to fight this.  You need to teach them from the very beginning to value themselves as people. You need to teach them that the media and other agents of socialization are working a very specific agenda and though performing for the male gaze is very much normalized that it is devaluing and soul crushing behaviour — which will eventually cause far more harm — than any accolade they could possibly achieve. Parenting is about teaching and guiding, not about beating children like  runaway slaves when they make a mistake.  Childhood is a learning process and it will inevitably be filled with mistakes. So, beatings like this constitute abusing them for being exactly what they are – children.

The other thing that disturbed me about this video is that their father was the one responsible for issuing the beating.  He is supposedly punishing them for performing for the male gaze and making themselves open for abuse; however, what is he teaching them but that they deserve to be abused by beating them this way? bell hooks theorized that the family is the first site of oppression and this video clearly displays that in action. Through this action, these girls have learned that it’s okay for a man to beat them if he claims to love them and have a desire to protect, and correct negative behaviour.  Essentially, this comes down to, I love you so I hit you. How does this father think this violent abuse is going to affect any other relationships they have with men?

I can only hope that the father and girls will be identified by authorities, so that these vulnerable young children can be protected and the father can face the justice which he is due. These girls weren’t beaten because they made a mistake, as many of the commenters across various webpages have suggested, but because they were vulnerable and defenseless. This man would not have beaten a fellow adult like that, nor would so many people have lined up to defend his action as acceptable. His action won’t teach his daughters to respect him but to hate him because he broke his sacred trust as a parent – not to abuse their vulnerability.  There is nothing which can be said to justify his decision or his actions.  What this video displays is not love but violence and privilege run amok.

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14 comments on “Father Beats Daughters With Electrical Cord for Twerking and Many Call it Discipline
  1. great job says:

    Everything that man has done was very right he must show the people how they raise children , because it’s very often these days most of girls has no respect for themselves or the community or anything else ,they just want to show their body parts and have illegal relationships with uncountable number of men many as they can get before marriage and the list goes on and on and on, because of the media and what they put in the brains of a young generations the boys will be soft and turning to a girly look with all the skinny jeans and all the package that comes from the media , that been controlled by very sick blood sucking demon worshiper trash to let the whole world fall in the darkness of sins and deserve the curse of almighty god so the devil can take most of humanity with him to hell and watch them burn for eternity .
    Every man or woman will be questioned from god , about what god gave them and what they done with it , there money how they earn it and where they spend it there knowledge what they do with it your wife and kids and the responsibility to them
    So please do not be stupid and say we cannot beat our children you have to ,
    In order to make them respectable, and in the position of trust honor morality and constructive tools to help support the development of society.

    God created people for one specific thing only is to worship him alone without partner,

    As we are human beings we must differ from animal’s men or women or children that must characterized by high moral character, honor, honesty, truthfulness, love and sharing.

    we must not follow the footsteps of the devil .
    Islam is the only way to live a good life here and hereafter ,convert to Islam to walk to the Wright path to the only true god Allah to show you the way to his heavens and to pray to him to save you from the devil’s trap
    There is no god but Allah alone with no partner and Muhammad (may peace be upon him ) is his slave and messenger, and Isa(Jesus) is his slave and his word was delivered to Mary and the spirit from him .

  2. Kim says:

    That is not discipline, start being real parents! Get involved in your child’s life, discuss what they did wrong, take away social media until they can respect it! Then to record yourself, well showing off for social media only made you look stupid!

  3. Adam says:

    What an animal..disgusting man. I’d like to take a switch to him. Let him rot in prison. Maybe he should pick on someone his own size..what a rotten human being.

  4. Stacy nelson says:

    This video brought tears to my eyes. Way more tears then a video of my own daughters twerking would have brought me. I grew up with a father just like this that thought beating me was the answer. All it brought was fear and hate for him and in fact made me rebale against him even more get in more trouble and even run away finally. Now being grown learning from my own mistakes I no longer get in what my dad considered horrible trouble. And i have my own kids yes they do get their butts busted not to an exten like this this is abuse. I talk to my children ground them times out and if it happens again they get their butts busted. I would never no this to my child. And says the things he said. This is sickening I have been beat like this with a cable by my father and it is so painful and leves you with scars for the rest of your life even if you have clothing on. I pray for these girls

  5. Jim Mathmillin says:

    BeatsByDre

  6. Julia Morgan says:

    Well cchuck u most be just like that mufi he needsto be sent back yo hell where belongs I seen what he can do with a kid what about that good for nothing son of bitch

  7. chuck douville says:

    The way I see it,they were as much telling dad “FUCK YOU.” I see a dad protecting his daughters from people who could / would hurt them a hell of a lot worse than he did. You can see that once he ‘gets their attention’ and makes his point, he drops the item and walks away. STOP BEING SLUTTY. YOU WERENT BROUGHT UP THAT WAY. I don’t see a grown man beating a child. I see a dad that’s fed up with disobedient brats that maybe didn’t ask to use HIS camera to make underage smut films. But, whatever the reason, I’m sure it was justifiable. How’s yer twerking asses now,ladies? GO DAD!!!

    • Stacy nelson says:

      You are just as sick as him I had a father like him and I’m here with scars for the rest of my life after being beat like that with a cable just like that. No mine was not for twerking it was cause I left a spot on a window after cleaning. But no matter what a kid does they do not deserve to be beat with a cable. It’s more painful than you can ever imagine I would rather be burnt alive then beat with a cable again. I’m scared to show any place on my body with the scaring. He could have talked to his girls busted their butts with his hand and grounded them it did not take this and calling them those mast words. I’m a mother and I will bust my kids butts with my hands of it comes to that so I am not against reasonable disipline

    • Daytonbrown01 says:

      Chill yourself? First of all nobody should beat a kid like that. So fuck you

  8. chuck douville says:

    The way I see it,they were as much telling dad “FUCK YOU.” I see a dad protecting his daughters from people who could / would hurt them a hell of a lot worse than he did. You can see that once he ‘gets their attention and makes his point, he drops the item and walks away. STOP BEING SLUTTY. YOU WERENT BROUGHT UP THAT WAY. I don’t see a grown man beating a child. I see a dad that’s fed up with disobedient brats that maybe didn’t ask to use HIS camera to make underage smut films. But, whatever the reason, I’m sure it was justifiable. How’s yer twerking asses now,ladies? GO DAD!!!

    • Jesus says:

      You’re an awful human being , if I should even call you that. You’re slut-shaming, i hope you never have children, because i wouldnt want a child in your hands. A man like you makes me truly question if there is a god, because if their is why would he take time to create you when he could have created someone with an actual heart.